Fey

Already got some good thoughts going as to how to make things work with my partner, and surprise surprise he was the one who gave me the best advice. We're both members of Help.com and he invited a whole lot of people he knows to respond to my post saying "How do you handle being with someone who is so often stuck in their head sorting through issues from their past?" Alot of it was just bullcrap but I got some very helpful stuff in there too.

He said:

"Got to look after number one, just don’t make it needlessly worse for them. If you still enjoy being with them, then find a few ways to minimise the issues. Let them know that you are in the present, and if they want to be with you, they need to *be* with you, not in the past. Don’t make them feel bad about it, just make them realise you are awesome, and wanting to be with them in a happy present and future?
If they can’t, then give them a hug and don’t blame them, and do what you need to. It’s not your fault, not their fault either.
Hope they snap out of it for you. :-)"

I think I was really blessed to find someone able to give me such honest advice, even when it concerned himself.

Firstly, allowing him to go through these times and work through his issues tends to end up with him coming out feeling much better on the other side. So I really think it's a good idea to allow him time to do this. However, also remind him that I am here now, loving him in the present and am there for him and want to do awesome things with him now.

Hmm. Feeling much better.