So sick of people's comments about soaking in self pitty..

[Jackieblue]

Whenever I hear responses like "Stop feeling sorry for yourself" , "You're soaking too much in self pitty", "Your being so selfish", makes me very discouraged, more angry, more depressed, more determined for the unthinkable. People making comments like that DOES NOT help. It can make other people feel worse and could cause a possibility for them to proceed suicide or homicide. One time I heard somone was making that kind of statement at a support group, that the party wounded up getting beaten so badly and ended up in the hospital. People should either respond a little more mildly to other people's sufferings or don't respond at all. Making comments like that to people who are suffering so badly can only make things worse for them..

[BluePeople]

That reminds of of the saying from grade school that if you don't have anyting nice to say don't say anything at all.

I would hope that this forum can be a good place where people don't have to worry about hearing negative things like that. I don't know you personally so I can't say if this would work, but it would be great if you and others could vent online here with hopes that would reduce your venting in real life, which in turn could help reduce the number of times you hear those negative comments in real life.

[bladed]

If you are hearing comments like "Stop feeling sorry for yourself" , "You're soaking too much in self pitty", "Your being so selfish" all the time then you probably complain too much. Nobody likes to be around constant complainers and crybabies myself included. Sometimes you need to just suck it up and stop whining around other people.

[Jackieblue]

If you are hearing comments like "Stop feeling sorry for yourself" , "You're soaking too much in self pitty", "Your being so selfish" all the time then you probably complain too much. Nobody likes to be around constant complainers and crybabies myself included. Sometimes you need to just suck it up and stop whining around other people.

This is exactly what I'm talking about, critisisms like that piss me off... I'm just about fed up with people's critisisms... As I said in my first post and I'll quote

People should either respond a little more mildly to other people's sufferings or don't respond at all.

People should keep their judgements to themselves, especially THAT last post..

[Chaz]

Hey Jackieblue. Don't think we are picking on you but I can see what bladed is saying about people not want to constantly hear it. I try not to complain to much or ramble about my problems to people because I know they don't want to hear it. It can be a turn off for people I think. Anyway that is why I turned to the internet . I don't want to do nothing but complain on the internet either, but it is nice to vent in a place where other people are like-minded. A lot of people here have really posted deep thoughts and I like that.

[Jackieblue]

Hey Jackieblue. Don't think we are picking on you but I can see what bladed is saying about people not want to constantly hear it. I try not to complain to much or ramble about my problems to people because I know they don't want to hear it. It can be a turn off for people I think. Anyway that is why I turned to the internet . I don't want to do nothing but complain on the internet either, but it is nice to vent in a place where other people are like-minded. A lot of people here have really posted deep thoughts and I like that.

Well it comes to show for those people who don't want to hear it, don't really care, especially for those on the internet. If People respond to my post with an attitude of

I don't want to hear it

I'll just add them to my ignore list. I come on forums for support not for critisism. If people don't like reading about others pitty on forums, then don't bother reading the post...

[SI7]

I totally understand.
I never complain, I've never talked to anyone that much to talk about my problems, I'm pretty quiet at home but my dad always remind me That I should start acting different and stop being an attention whore. I'm here to talk if you want to...