Please pray - frustrated and crying

[ithurtz]

Hi,

The storm is mighty big and I don't know if I should stop fighting it and just give in! It is one thing after another. I need some help here

Today we received a call from a debt collector about the accident; it is for a bill of nearly $1300. Yesterday we were given a letter of demand from the person whose fence I took out and it is $748.

Problem – the ironic age old problem of not being insured. The night before the accident, I had a strong urge to get insurance that I had let go because finances were tough. Things were just starting to look a bit better after what seemed like an eternity of struggling. I talked to hubby and we decided to wait til the weekend so we could be thorough instead of just taking the first one.

Now comes the really frustrating part – while I was in a BAD way laying there on the ground, the tow truck strongly urged hubby to sign the car for them to take away. He was in shock himself seeing me lying there on the ground like that and wouldn’t have known different anyway. He signed. Now they want the $1300 for towing and storage.

I had placed a call to them and pleaded with them to which they agreed to let us sign over the car in lieu of the bill or at least the storage which is the bulk part of the bill. Hubby just had to go in, collect our effects, and get the car signed over. Needless to say, he did not do it. I reminded hymn so many times but they were so awful to him that he just couldn’t bring himself to do it.

I got brother in law to go in and he collected most but not all items. He was supposed to tell them to forward us the papers to sign as it was too hard for him to get in there with me being incapacitated. Apparently he didn’t and we didn’t get the forms to sign. A few weeks later brings us to today’s events.

It didn’t go over very well and hubby and I had the worst fight that we have had in a very long time. I was so frustrated and mad with him for not just swallowing his pride and going in there to deal with it nor taking the other option of writing to them as he said he would instead. Now it has come to this. I am angry with him because it could have so easily been prevented.

I wrote to them tonight (with much pain to myself) and have asked them to reconsider and to be merciful. I doubt that they will be willing again as last time they were very hard to move on it. I have outlined everything to them.

Could you please pray that they do have compassion toward us and are reasonable? Could you also pray that we forgive each other?

Thanks

From Melissa

What Doesn't Kill Us MakesUs Stronger

Stop Telling God How Big Your Storm Is and Start Telling the Storm How Big Your God Is!

[ithurtz]

I SMS’d hubby last night in tears, expressing some of my feelings. He SMS’d me back and then called me back when he had his break and things were good this morning with him being supportive. He still won’t let his pride go so that he will go to the people though (which is what caused the problem in the first place), he did at least sign the letter. I just pray it does some good. They were pretty horrible to deal with so in a way I totally understand why he won’t but something so simple could have saved us a lot of heartache. He will pay for it by being the one to do the overtime to pay it though. It is just so hard when we were just starting to see the light. I got very depressed and blamed myself for a whole load of things. As he said – no point now because we cannot turn back the clock but the thing is, it would be half way okay if he learnt something from it but he hasn’t really.

Unfortunately even paying small instalments at the moment is about impossible. Hubby WON’T go over there so I have written practically begging them and asking them to send them so that we can sign the papers. With where our finances are right now, a couple of thousand could be enough to sink us and bankruptcy isn’t an option as we have not been cleared of a previous one for ten years so they won’t let us anyway!

Borrowing from family is also not an option. I basically don’t have one (estranged for very good reasons and staying that way – forgiven but not allowing the abuse to continue) and hubby’s family don’t have anything.

Anyway, I thank you for your support.

[ithurtz]

Hubby went to pay the rent this morning and the agents complained about the boxes still sitting out front. Someone has either complained or they have driven by for another reason. They were in the family room and the spare room but with daughter coming home it all had to change really fast. We have been working on it but with my car accident, obviously things are very slowly progressing.

It is just another straw but I am sagging under the weight of it all right now. I am trying to do my best but I am exhausted and getting very little help. We cannot afford to get any problems here or we won’t have anywhere to go.

Please pray for us. I feel like I just cannot go much further and am about ready to cave in under it all. It doesn’t change anything where the family is concerned though. I know God is bigger than the storm but the storm just keeps getting bigger and bigger every time we feel that it is easing. I know it hasn’t killed me yet so I am getting stronger but I feel like it is beginning to kill me. In fact, it could have a very large amount to do with the accident. Hubby has been better doing stuff before he goes to bed of a morning this week and that has been a really big thing for him but the kids are still not helping. Our son is improving now he is spending time with the people from his church so that is a big thing too. Now I just need a bit more around here to help me.

[Blue]

Melissa,

Sounds like you are going through a horrible time, I really sympathise for you.

Try not to stress too much, it probably really is not that bad, all you need to think is that this time next year everything will be fine, you are just going through a rough patch.

Things will work out, you will overcome this obstacle in your way.

We all face these obstacles in life, and we all overcome and push them out of the way and move forward to face the next one.

You could always turn to ebay to sell a few things to recoup the money for the payment of the bills.

[ithurtz]

The problem is every time we start seeing the end of the rough patch we get another without being able to come up for air! The light at the end of the tunnel is a fantasy for us and never seems to turn into a reality.

I do sell on Oztion but it is also very time consuming. I have loads of stuff that I want to get rid of that way and sure enough - my digital camera went on the fritz. It also takes a lot of sorting to get to that as well. I am trying bit with my injuries (broken wrist in a cast, broken leg, shattered kneecap with a deep wound that was surgically repaired, severe ligament damage to both ankles, severe whiplash to chest and shoulder, as well as six broken ribs), then i have trouble doing much of anything at the moment but we cannot afford to lose this place we live in. The stuff is all neatly stacked under the carport so i don't see what the big deal is. We had a double garage where we lived before as well as an extra bedroom. It isn't that I don't want to get rid of it - I very much do and I have been working on it, I just can't do it fast enough for the real estate. I keep asking for help but I am not getting enough, most of the time scarcely any at all.

I have hired a housekeeper to come in once a fortnight to help me with that side of things. That helps.

[Blue]

Hows things been lately, is things working out for you yet? I am so sorry to hear about your terrible injuries.... but at least your still here.